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A secret admirer is an individual who feels adoration, fondness or love for another person without disclosing his or her identity to that person, and who may send gifts or love letters to his or her crush. ==Grade school== The goal of a secret admirer is to woo the object of his or her affections, and then to reveal his or her identity, paving the way for a real relationship – a revealing which at school age usually occurs on Valentine's Day, ''the day of love''. Reactions to a gushy Valentine may range from approval〔C. Barr, ''Best Books for Children'' (2007) p. 495〕 to gross out.〔Barbara Park in ''For Younger readers'' (2007) p. 131-2〕 Many elementary schools and sometimes schools up to secondary schools have children do Valentine's Day projects on February 14 to craft and send "secret admirer" letters to classmates, which may not actually reflect a real "crush" and may be done neutrally or arbitrarily, and, perhaps, if done under duress from the class project requirement, reluctantly. ==Office== Notes from a secret admirer may feature in office dating, but are not recommended as a means of approaching a colleague, and may border on sexual harassment.〔S. Kisee/H. Olen, ''Office Mate'' (2007) p. 70〕 Youthful passion for a celebrity〔S. Freud, ''On Sexuality'' (PFL 9) p. 387〕 stands on the boundary between secret admirer and fan; while the secret or concealed admiration of 'having eyes for'〔Erving Goffman, ''Relations in Public'' (1972) p. 247〕 may also feature as a preliminary phase in the process of initially approaching the opposite sex.〔Desmond Morris, ''Manwatching'' (1987) p. 245〕 抄文引用元・出典: フリー百科事典『 ウィキペディア（Wikipedia）』 ■ウィキペディアで「secret admirer」の詳細全文を読む スポンサード リンク
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